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Old 01-02-2005, 08:38 PM   #1
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Question Would you....



Ever start a relationship with someone of the opposite sex that already had a child or two?

Why, or why not?
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Old 01-02-2005, 08:58 PM   #2
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...why would you ask that? like honestly...if you really want to you wouldnt post this...if you really love her, her kids shouldnt be a factor for you...you have to make sacrifices in life...are you ready to take care of her kids? can u call them or treat them as your own?
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:00 PM   #3
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people over the net shouldnt change your answer
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:02 PM   #4
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basically sums up what i said
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:16 PM   #5
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i asked for ppls opinions, why make assumptions?
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:19 PM   #6
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im not, dont worry...but personally i wouldnt accept it from people on THIS board..primarily, we got a lot of goofs on here...lol,
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Old 01-02-2005, 09:20 PM   #7
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Heh, I'd obviously disregard the goof-inspired opinions.
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Old 01-02-2005, 10:17 PM   #8
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...why would you ask that? like honestly...if you really want to you wouldnt post this...if you really love her, her kids shouldnt be a factor for you...you have to make sacrifices in life...are you ready to take care of her kids? can u call them or treat them as your own?

why wouldn't he ask that? there are so many dumb things being put up on this website I dnt see why you are flaming him for a half decent quetion that might make for an interesting topic.


To answer the question. Id probably have to go with no initially, because Id like it to be my children that I am growing up and spending time with. But in a second look, maybe yes, because you can always have more children, and still love the ones she already has..

As long as they are young not to know the truth?
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Old 01-02-2005, 10:42 PM   #9
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Would you ask somthing like that on a BMW forum?

Why, or why not?
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Old 01-02-2005, 10:58 PM   #10
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...why would you ask that? like honestly...if you really want to you wouldnt post this...if you really love her, her kids shouldnt be a factor for you...you have to make sacrifices in life...are you ready to take care of her kids? can u call them or treat them as your own?

What the hell does this mean? If he really loves her, her kids shouldn't be a factor? He said START A RELATIONSHIP. You don't love poeple at the start of a relationship...........

And I think there's nothing wrong with a thread to ask this and get people to share their views on it. Even if it won't change his mind, it's sitll interesting to see what people have to say.
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Old 01-02-2005, 11:07 PM   #11
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Ever start a relationship with someone of the opposite sex that already had a child or two?

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Yes, I would start a relationship with someone that has children. There's nothing wrong in starting a relationship with a person in that situation but to keep a long term one, it would depend on what circumstances she got the children. Were they both from one father who she thought she loved? or were they from two different guys who she thought she loved? or were they just accidents through one night stands or what have you.
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Old 01-02-2005, 11:11 PM   #12
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i have dated a guy who had a kid
it wasnt an easy thing

you always have to take in account.. the fact that the kids are a part of your life

cant be a normal couple.. unless u get sum1 2 baby sit the kid(s) most of the time... which is costly..

its hard for the kid growing up to see so many ppl in an out of there life

plus ex drama.. that was the worst. the kids mom didnt want no women around her baby..
the kid would refer 2 me as MOM too. and it upset her, a lot...


but honestly.. if you care about the person and are ready 2 make certain sacrafices for the relationship and the kids.. then go for it

its a huge thing though.. shouldnt be taken lightly.
a lot of responsibility and work.. even if ur not directly involved with the kids.
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Old 01-02-2005, 11:16 PM   #13
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It's hard. If the kids don't like you its an uphill battle, and then she gets pissed if you don't do things with them. Takes a long time to find a balance that works.

Having since done this, I'd never do it again. Way too much baggage/aggravation.
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Old 01-02-2005, 11:19 PM   #14
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Old 01-02-2005, 11:43 PM   #15
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miguel this dosnt apply to you, you change girls like your socks.
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