I've delt with MANY MANY times and every single time have had problems with his parts, he replaces it NO PROBLEM NO QUESTIONS ASK.
First, for $40 for an ECU, you should not complaing about driving to get it. i don't know why people are so ****ing CHEAP. You tried it without paying for it, What the **** is the big deal? its not like he took your money.
You said, You've got friends with the same car, why not try first before buying that ecu?? Maybe its not ur ECU that is fault it could be million other things that could be wrong with the motor.
Phil is a very honest guy, no need to bash him.
Next time you want parts, go to the ****ing dealer!