For others seeking this information:
In the auto wire loom that goes down to the trans, there is a brown/black wire (brown wire/black stripe). This wire has to be grounded. This wire grounds the starter relay (86pin) as if the car was in park or neutral. You can also do this right at the trans module plug, as it is the same colour and comes out of pin 26 on the trans module plug.
1987 325is(Midnight Tuning Tuned OBD I S52
) - Current Summer Car
2013 Ford Edge - Daily Driver
1985 318i - 1st Car (started it all)